No shame and no blame

We waste so much time lamenting things we wish we didn’t do or say or wear or buy. This is unhelpful and floods your body with negative ninny neurones (it’s science). When I was giving up the booze, I felt attacked by my thoughts and hazy memories of shame and blame. Idiot! Why? Why me?Continue reading “No shame and no blame”

Affirmative

If you come across me muttering to myself, please don’t escort me to the local loony bin (or PC equivalent) because I’m probably reciting affirmations (or hugging and telling giant rose quartz rocks I love them). Affirmations are inspirational statements you say or think about yourself.  These positive phrases help set off a chain ofContinue reading “Affirmative”

Let’s get physical!

“Stay in your head you’re dead” my mate Tony Robbins says. I am realising more and more the importance of movement and the impact it has on the mind and spirit as well as the body. I used to think cross country running was hell (it kind of was being forced to run up aContinue reading “Let’s get physical!”

Forgiveness

Forgiveness is the gift you give yourself. Are you holding onto resentment or rage at yourself or others? This stuff is toxic, like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies. If you can forgive and let go, it feels like you’ve shed a ton of literal and metaphorical weight off your shoulders. Someone shouldContinue reading “Forgiveness”

The happiness decision

Abraham Lincoln was awesome. Exhibit A: The Gettysburg address. Exhibit B: Inspired the Wayne’s World quote: If she were a president she would be Babe-raham Lincoln. Exhibit C: This; ‘Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be’. I’ve been pondering this and seeing what difference deciding to be happy can make rather than justContinue reading “The happiness decision”

The man in the mirror

Perhaps the evil queen was onto something in Snow White when she looked into the mirror and asked, ”Magic mirror on the wall, who’s the fairest of them all?” While I don’t condone her evil ways, there is a power in speaking to yourself in the mirror, even if it’s not the kind that talksContinue reading “The man in the mirror”

Help me help you

Hello, my name’s Yvette and I’m an addict. My addiction du jour? Self-help books. All kinds, I’m not discriminating. Books about worthiness, happiness, wealthiness, cleanliness (it’s surely next to godliness!). Sell it to me with the promise of brighter better me at the end and I’m a sucker for it. I’m a slave for you.Continue reading “Help me help you”

Be kind to your inner child

  ‘The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice’ Peggy O’Mara Self-talk is such an important part of changing the way we feel which then shapes our experience. What you think about, you bring about. This is the law of attraction. If it’s negative or critical, we feel sad, anxious or guiltyContinue reading “Be kind to your inner child”