More words to live by

As I’ve been walking in a Winter wonderland recently, I’ve been listening to podcasts and some of the things I’ve had have heard on them have struck me and stuck with me for further contemplation and motivation.

 “You’re putting the needs of tomorrow ahead of the wants of today.” Captain Fi on Episode 4: Aussie Firebug of “Captain Fi” I’ve gone back down the FIRE (financially-independent-retire-early) rabbit-hole and am currently doing an uber frugal month so this quote from the Aussie podcast was very timely. Yes, a takeaway pizza pie would be delicious today but even more delicious will be the money I’ve saved from cooking my own when it comes out of tomorrow’s oven all investY and compoundY.

“Write down the 5 things that you enjoy doing the most on a weekly basis and these will reflect your values which will guide you”.Scott Rieckens on Episode 82 of “The Fi Show”. Scott was one of the producers and subjects of the documentary, “Playing with FIRE”. It documents his and his wife Taylor’s introduction into the world of financial independence.  They both do this exercise early on in the movie and realise that their favourite things are inexpensive and can be done anywhere. For example, Taylor lists playing with their daughter and having coffee with Scott. Mine include walking and writing which are also examples of cost-effective and fun things that value time over money. What are yours?

“An honest no is better than a dishonest maybe.”Clear is Kind, Communication with Brad Barrett on Episode 28 of “Everyday Courage”. The more honest and clear we can be with others about our expectations, boundaries and preferences, the better. Instead of RSVP-ing “Maybe” and worrying about whether to go to something or not, Brad and Jillian (fellow people-pleasers) suggest checking in with yourself to gauge how you actually feel about it and then share it with the other person. Certainty is better than uncertainty for everyone.

“There are two ways to wealth; acquire more or desire less”.Eddy Garcia on Episode 84 of “The Fi Show” As Eddy talked about his childhood growing up in Hawaii, fishing, surfing and plucking coconuts-I was reminded of how fulfilling and free living with less can be. Time for more decluttering and earthing!

I’d love to hear from you. What podcasts and words of wisdom have struck a chord with you dear reader?

Love and light and slushy stomping we go xxx Yvette

Podcast | The Aussie Firebug

Playing with FIRE | Scott Rieckens

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Stone Cold Sober

Reposting this blog originally published March 2017 to celebrate my 4 year Soberversary in July. Ginger beer cheers to many more!

Weave the Future Magical

Hi I’m Yvette and it’s been 7 months since my last drink. There was a time when 7 days between drinks felt like an almost impossible feat. My brain was wired for the Groundhog Day, one-size-fits all solution of ‘wine’.

Good day? Wine. Bad day? Wine. Going out? Wine. Staying in? Wine. Happy? Wine. Sad? Wine. Hangover? Hair of the dog that bit me…Wine! Wine was the answer at least for most of the questions in my mind.

Wine was friend. Always there. I could buy it! The novelty of this fact has never worn off. I can buy it? Whenever I want? Wherever I want? With wine as always is Garth/ Yvette. Of course it started off as a relationship full of fun and parties. Hangovers were minimal (oh to be young) and drinking almost an expectation. Slowly it slid into a co-dependent…

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Frugal Freedom

“Joy is not a “done” to-do list; rather, it’s the ability to appreciate and savour the simplicity of each day’s routine. To not feel that you need a vacation from your life. To know that you’re living as close to your ideal as possible, every single day.”― Elizabeth Willard Thames: Meet the Frugalwoods: Achieving Financial Independence Through Simple Living

“A lot of stuff we spend money on actually makes life less enjoyable in the long run. And a lot of cheap and free stuff is very enjoyable indeed. So why choose the stuff that requires us to work all the time and get stressed about bank balances?” ―Annie Raser-Rowland and Adam Grubb: The Art of Frugal Hedonism: A Guide to Spending Less While Enjoying Everything More

I’m half-way through my low-buy year #2020WeHavePlenty. I’m not buying any clothes or books, replacements only in accessories and beauty products, only occasional take-away coffee and food, trying to use less utilities and budgeting for groceries and other expenses. In many ways, being in various levels of lockdown has helped cut down my spending in most categories; Public Transport, Petrol, Entertainment, Beauty, Gym etc and helped me feel OK about adopting a tracksuit-only uniform. I learned that literally having nowhere to spend your money means you don’t spend your money. I’m fast colouring in squares on the money saver page on my fridge.

Two excellent books I’ve read recently, “Meet the Frugalwoods” (borrowed eBook from library) and “The Art of Frugal Hedonism” (a friend lent me), have shared the increased pleasures of living a simplified, values-driven life. The joy of harvesting and sharing your own produce, of camping with friends, the relationship-building potential of cutting each other’s hair and going on picnics. The silver lining of lockdown has not simply been the Scrilla saved but also the increased focus on values, the return to simplicity, self-sufficiency and sourdough starters. Is a wine-cooler (or kombucha) in the driveway talking to your neighbours secondary to getting on-the-beers at the pub or is it actually superior? Likewise, nature walks and live streamed yoga classes vs. going to the gym. Ditto homemade cinnamon scrolls vs. Baker’s Delight?

“In the rush to return to normal, use this time to consider which parts of normal are worth rushing back to.” – Dave Hollis

Perhaps we can all try and continue to live a life rich in simple pleasures, home cooking and time rather than so much outsourcing, over working and expense. I’m looking forward to the fun of frugality and saving money for the rest of the year. I plan to do the Frugalwoods Uber Frugal Month challenge in July. Who’s filling up their thermos and coming with me into this brave new world?

Love and light and less is more xxx Yvette


The Art of Frugal Hedonism

2020 we have plenty

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The Hunger Games: May challenge

Every month this year, I’m trying a new challenge to see if it kickstarts a positive change or habit. In May, I tried the 5:2 Diet. I had put on the Quarantine-5 (kgs-at least!) so was hopeful that this regime would break my slavery to the constant insatiable eating. The 5:2 diet involves eating normally for five days per week, then restricting your calorie intake to 500–600 calories on the other two days (500 for women, 600 for men). It was developed by Dr Michael Mosley. I read his 2014 book “The 5:2 Diet”. He has since updated the regime to be kickstarted by a time of eating 800 calories prior to this but I jumped right into ye olde 5:2.

I’m an all-or-nothing type of person so general platitudes about ‘eating more lightly and healthily’ never seem to stick. Sobriety is easier for me than moderation for example.  So, this eating regime appealed as I would decide on my fast days and restrict calories and know that the next day I could eat the chocolate. I chose days where I was at work so would only be able to eat what I’d brought. The ‘fast’ days give your body a chance to reset and recalibrate and your mind a chance to practice stoicism and mindfulness. Here’s what I learnt;

Eating your feelings-I realised that many of the impulses to eat were driven by my desire to change how I was feeling. Bored? Open the fridge. Uncomfortable? Look in the cupboard. Instead I focused on breathing and feeling the feeling and then finding an alternate activity. Be it a cup of tea, a walk, a book, a shower, a few yoga poses.

This too shall pass-The hunger passes and surprisingly doesn’t hurt you (in the short term anyhoo) and the fast day will pass too and you’ll eat more tomorrow. If the day seems long-you can go to bed early. What a treat! I also found that even if I found comfort in the fact I could give in to my food cravings on the morrow, they were mostly gone the next day. This too shall pass as always.

Mind over matter– Because I was intentional about what and when I was eating, I got pleasure planning, preparing and savouring my lower-cal meals. Steamed veg, boiled eggs, smoked salmon/tuna and miso soup were my delicious friends. I was conscious of the fact that proteins and veg keep you fuller for longer so didn’t waste calories on ‘empty’ foods. I also got a stoic satisfaction out of the fact that hunger ain’t the boss of me-I am.

Keep on keeping on-I will continue this after May as in a strange way, I’m really enjoying it. The scales haven’t moved much but I have noticed an increase in energy and satisfaction by completing this regular challenge.

Have you tried intermittent fasting? What challenge should I try next?

Love and light and lighter eating xxx Yvette

Dr Micheal Mosley;

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Come on come on…Feel it feel it!

Marky Mark and his funky bunch were onto something by urging us to ‘feel the vibrations’. I’ve been trying an emotional processing technique ATM and I’m finding it effective AF. I’m doing a course run by Charlie Goldsmith called, “My Good Habits”. He explains that when feelings come up, they need to be felt fully to process and then leave. When we feel angry or sad, we often avoid feeling it-instead choosing to put on a brave face or distract ourselves with cake or booze. In this way it’s like a child coming to tell us they’re upset and us shooing them away saying ‘not now, snap out of it, here’s a cup-cake and a bit of wine’.

I’m no expert but this surely isn’t an appropriate response to a child in pain and it’s not an appropriate response to ourselves either. If we feel happy or like laughing, we respond in the moment rather postponing it saying, ‘that’s funny, I’ll laugh later at a better time’. We feel happy, smile and laugh and then it passes. Charlie suggests that when we feel any emotion coming up, we should lean into it-close eyes if possible and chase the feeling around your body. It may get stronger for a time but will quickly dissipate if we sit with it and process it.

He used this technique with someone who was very scared of dogs. Every time she saw a dog, she felt the fear and would run away. Charlie encouraged her to feel into this fear and feel it acutely until it passed and then she was able to pat his doggie and is now patting every dog she meets. What joy! She had been avoiding feeling the fear because it was uncomfortable and the fear had become associated with dogs as when she was younger her parents told her never to touch them as they could be diseased or aggro. Once she felt the fear instead of having the flight response, she was able to process it and move through it.

I’ve been trying this and it does seem counterintuitive at first to feel further into the uncomfortable feelings but if I focus on following the feeling around my body, I do actually pass through the other side to being past it. For example, I’ll feel anxiety about the uncertain and the unknown manifesting in my stomach (lots of feelings seem to start there for me) and if I focus on it and follow it, it will intensify and then dissipate and I’m left feeling calmer afterwards.

So, give it a try and see if it can be helpful for you.

Love and light and do you feel it baby?…I can too xxx Yvette

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Quarantine Basics

“Does anyone know if we will get through together or not? Or if these times are certain or uncertain? No one letting me know”. Chrissy Teigen

In my social media scrolling, that takes up an embarrassingly large amount of my time these days, I’ve discovered; That Chrissy Teigen wins the internet (@commentsbycelebs on insta does a Sunday Night Teigen Roundup) and that BACE is a helpful CBT framework to guide us in these uncertain times that we will get through together.

“BACE is a simple way to divide our daily activities into four categories: Body care, Achievement, Connecting with others, and Enjoyment. A routine that has activities across all BACE categories is good for us, experts say, because it releases good chemicals in our brain which are key to staying mentally healthy”. ABC Life

B is for Body Care; Sleep, Healthy Eating, Exercise, Yoga, Shower, Brush Hair.

It can be tempting to stay horizontal in PJs with the remote in one hand and a snack in the other but if you can get yourself into a more active routine, you’ll feel a million percent better. Here are some things I’ve been trying/ friendsies have recommended:

*Set an alarm for wake up (I have a cat alarm clock that refuses to be snoozed) and try to go to bed at same time daily.

*Because carbs and pantry staples were initially scarce during the Panic Buying Phase, I ate a diet of righteous mac and cheese and tuna pesto pasta for a few weeks straight in a warped supply/ demand hype. I’m now trying to get back to being paleo-ish and feeling better for eating at least something resembling fresh on occasion.

*Join every man and his dog (at a safe distance) in a walk round the hood.

*There are many YouTube Channels, Apps and Insta Lives devoted to exercising at home. I’m enjoying the Downward Dog Yoga App and the @EveStudio “10 Minutes together” Live workouts at 8.30am each morn. Have heard that @RyanHeffington Live Dance classes/ Parties snap too! (Literally-he was one of the Bend and Snap dancers in “Legally Blonde”).

*Spa Days-a weekly coconut oil hair mask and Go-To skincare face mask give me life and a tropic island scent.  

A is for Achievement-Reading, Baking, Chores, Work, Gardening, Music.

Kicking even small goals give you sense of achievement and buoyancy.

*Libraries change lives; hurrah for unbridled borrowing of eBooks and audiobooks. Recent faves of mine have been; “If I Never Met you” by Mhairi McFarlane (fun fiction) and “Gotta Get Theroux This” by Louis Theroux (fun to listen to the audiobook in his distinctive voice).

*Baking and Gardening I’m clueless about. But friends are raving about Sourdough Starters and Veggie Gardens and one day I hope to discover my inner domestic goddess.

*I have discovered the Dyson sparks joy and re-re-organising things does to.

*WFH’ers report that noise cancelling headphones, repurposed work spaces and giving Hamish Blake your Zoom meeting details for him to crash are helpful.

*I have to shout out Global Citizen’s (@glblctzn) #TogetherAtHome Concerts. My highlights being T. Swizzles’ heartbreaking “Soon You’ll Get Better” and Backstreet Boys “I want it that way” sang from their various living rooms in various cities. Am I…your fire?

C is Connection; Friends, Chats, Email, Love, Family, Pets.

Our social lives have been shrunk down to screen size.

*Zoom, Houseparty and Video-chats and are so hot right now to connect with frems and fam.

*I enjoyed a Trivia night with some friendsies. We all contributed 10 questions. Sample Q of mine: How many cats does Taylor Swift have and can you name them for bonus points? #

*My feline friend Bella is alternating between wanting to sit on top of me inconveniently and snubbing me. I didn’t realise how many dogs live in my hood until they were all being walked all the time! I want a chonky one.

E is for Enjoyment; Hobbies, Dancing, Playing, Podcasts, Movies, Puzzles.

This time has certainly brought us back to simplicity. And Tik-Tok.

*Lots of time to pursue hobbies. Mine include colouring in and blogging. I’m a savage.

*Who knew puzzles would make such a comeback?  Scott Morrison for one it seems. “How good are puzzles?”

*I love Podcasts from the classic to the bougie and the ratchet. A friend recommended Judith Lucy’s Podcast and I’m enjoying “The Joyful Frugalista” and “Hamish and Andy” too.

*Screen wise I mean; Doctor Foster (Stan), Unorthodox (Netflix), Lego Masters (Channel 9), Alexa Chung (YouTube)

So, keep it BACE-ic guyZ and I’d love to hear your hints, tips and tricks!

Love and light and #TS has 3 cats; Meredith Grey, Olivia Benson and Benjamin Button! Xxx Yvette

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“The day you plant the seed is not the day you eat the fruit. Be patient and stay the course.” Fabienne Fredrickson

“No winter lasts forever; no spring skips its turn.” Hal Borland

“It makes me angry, I’m serious. But then again, I’m just about to get my period. Periods, we all get periods. Every month, yo, that’s what the theory is.
It’s human nature, another cycle. Be nice to me, I’ll make you one of my disciples.”
Lily Allen

I’ve been reminding myself of this when I feel stuck-in-a-rut (and especially now as the whole world is collectively in a quarantine phase). Life is cyclical like the garden and weather and 90’s fashion. At the moment I’m in a planting phase; on my knees tilling the soil and squishing down the seeds and doing whatever other gardenY things people do (the poor pot plants I’ve loved or neglected to death). It’s hard not to get frustrated that I’m not yet in the fruit-eating phase of being a teacher-librarian -yogi by the beach like I dream but instead am toiling to gain yogi and library experience, grow my blog and scrolling wistfully. But I must remind myself, this too is just a phase which too will pass.

I love the start of Autumn. Life on the mild side! Cooler crisper days. Drier crunchier leaves. EasterY chocolateR eggYs. So, I must remind myself when I get that summertime, summertime sadness that it won’t last forever and the seasons will change (for now at least with impending climate change horror). Likewise, I’ve heard wise people reframing their thoughts about their lives into seasons like students in a ‘study phase’, parents in a ‘family phase’ and salary men in a ‘working phase’. These won’t last forever and the exams, toddler tantrums, capsule hotels and pandemics will pass. Right?

This seasonal reframe can help us understand menstrual cycles too. Even though Aunty Flo has been visiting me for yonkies, I still feel like I’m going crazy as one week I can workout daily and cook up a storm and get social (zoom for one more?) and the next, I feel like walking from the couch to the kettle to make a cup of tea is a major event and effort. Turns out this is normal and we should understand and honour these cycles too. I’m looking forward to learning more about this so I can plan for down times and disco times..Or stay home AND dance time as the current time calls for.

Thanks to Rising Women for this summary (link below).Week 1: Inner Winter – Around day 1-6 of your menstrual cycle when you’re bleeding. Winter is a time of inward reflection, a time of metaphorical death. Week 2: Inner Spring – Around day 7-13 when you’re in the pre-ovulation phase. Ahhh spring phase! This also represents the Goddess or Maiden Archetype. Spring is the second week of your cycle. Week 3: Inner Summer – Around day 14-21 during your ovulation phase. Summer phase is when things begin to heat up – literally and metaphorically. This is the third week of the menstrual cycle, where ovulation occurs
Week 4: Inner Fall – Around day 22-29 during your luteal phase (winding down again). Fall is the fourth week of your cycle, and this is where things start winding down.

So try considering things as seasonal and know that; winter, spring, summer or fall…
All you’ve got to do is call. And I’ll be there, yeah, yeah, yeah. You’ve got a friend.

Love and light and ain’t it good to know that you’ve got a friend xxx Yvette

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Way Harsh

Why can’t I sleep at night?
Don’t say “It’s gonna be alright”
I wanna be able to eat spaghetti bolognese
And not feel bad about it for days and days and days

In the magazines, they talk about weight loss
If I buy those jeans, I can look like Kate Moss
I know it’s not the life that I chose
But I guess that’s the way that things go

Lily Allen “Everything’s just wonderful”

I’ve been absolutely blown away by the honest way three of my favourite singers have described their experiences with body dysmorphia and the way harsh way that the public and media have judged them on their appearances.

In Lily’s Allen memoir “My Thoughts Exactly”, she openly shares how speculation and criticism about her talent, looks and relationships fuelled a cycle of addiction, starvation, anxiety and self-harm. Lily would go to great lengths to lose weight before a photo-shoot; binge-drinking to induce dehydration and therefore look more-defined or even knocking herself out with sleeping tablets for 3 days because if she wasn’t awake-she couldn’t eat. The skinnier she was, the more praise she seemed to get.

Likewise, Taylor Swift in the documentary “Miss Americana” talks about how comments about her weight and speculation about whether or not she was pregnant in the press, led to her overexercising and under eating.

“I remember how, when I was 18, that was the first time I was on the cover of a magazine,” she says “And the headline was like ‘Pregnant at 18?’ And it was because I had worn something that made my lower stomach not look flat. So, I just registered that as a punishment…. You register that enough times, and you just start to accommodate everything towards praise and punishment, including your own body.”

Singer-songwriter Clare Bowditch’s memoir “Your Own Kind of Girl’’ takes us through how childhood grief and loss played out in an eating disorder and in her early toxic relationships. She also introduces us to her inner critic and what it was telling her as she cycled through fad diets and breakups with her on-off boyfriend.

“From a very young age Clare was forced to grapple – explicitly – with the toxic idea that her weight was the major barometer of her worth. It wasn’t just that kids teased her for being big. Adults called her fat too. To her face. When she lost weight, her primary school teacher and mums of her friends asked for photocopies of her diet. She was treated differently. It was clear she was better liked when she was thinner. The warm glow of approval was intoxicating. But it was also unsettling for her young mind: she was the same person regardless of the number on the scales so why was it such a big deal? It set in motion a vicious cycle: constant dieting, binging, self-loathing. It went on for years”. Women’s Agenda: Clare Bowditch: Her own kind of girl (the kind of girl we can all learn from)

All three musicians share how healing it is for them to create and share music, words and projects that reflect their own experiences honestly and how these resonate with others. I can say that reading, watching and listening (I had the pleasure of listening to the audio version of Lily’s book in her lovely London accent) to these performers made me question why we are so harsh with our appearance based judgements, especially towards women. Instead, we should simply enjoy the art they create without being snippy speculators about who’s too fat or too thin. I applaud their vulnerability in sharing which will greatly help others with similar experiences.

Love and light and it’s hard out here for a b##ch xxx Yvette

Check out for radical inclusivity and body positivity Allen, “My Thoughts Exactly” (2018)“Hard out here” Lily Allen video

“Miss Americana” Official trailer Bowditch,”Your Own Kind of Girl “ (2019)

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Why does the caged bird sing?

Freaky times hey with Covid-19 induced self-quarantine, social distancing and supermarket sweep style scenes. How can we keep our mind, body and soul healthy? As an introvert, frugalista and optimist, I’ve had a bit of practice at some of this. But as a casual worker in service industries and a gym-user-I’m realising the challenge of changes outside our control.  Here a few things I’m trying;

Sculpting my guns: With the gym closed, I’m trying a combo of YouTube vids/ apps and home equipment to try and bag a classy lady by giving her two tickets to the gun show to see if she likes the goods.* Pamela Reif’s YouTube Channel has a range of workout styles, lengths and intensities. She doesn’t talk and is German, blond and modelY and does the moves to music with a timer. Simple, effective and gut danke. The lovely peeps at Down Dog Apps have made their Yoga, Barre, HILT and 7-minute workouts free until April 1st as fitness classes close due to Covid-19. So, I’ve been doing a Pamela workout, some squats/lunges with dumbbells, kettle bell or resistance bands and then a Down Dog Yoga to finish. Don’t act like you’re not impressed!

Are we clear? Crystal. More time in introspection and reflection ain’t a bad thing. Life becomes simpler. Our priorities clearer: the health and wellbeing of ourselves and others. We are staying at home to flatten the curve and protect the vulnerable in our community. We have appreciation for the little things. Who can ever look at a roll of toilet paper again without feeling a swell of love, gratitude and abundance? Ditto pasta or rice.

I liked this take from Italian Instagram fashionista Chiara Ferrangi, “Even in this weird time, enjoy the ride and find a lesson for the next phase of your life. Make a list of what you’re missing and never take it for granted again. Life after Covid will be a new life for us all, and I can’t wait to experience everything with different eyes”. The Kindness Pandemic movement reflects the generousity of the human spirit and can be seen as Italians sing from their balconies, Spaniards applaud medical workers and many worldwide give/ help/ thank others.

Trad wife Goals.I’m pretty much a professional potterer. Days are frittered away doing a bit of this and that. It’s an ideal time to channel your inner traditional wife and get creative in the kitchen (with the random ingredients you can get your hands on), get decluttering your closets and get scrubbing everything. Make do and mend. Keep calm and carry on. We’re ideally placed for being under house arrest with so many streaming services, digital libraries and social media holes to fall down. Or look to your cat for inspo and catch up on a year’s worth of sleep.

The caged bird sings for freedom.This too shall pass and won’t last forever so look on the bright side, appreciate the small things and use your time wisely to sculpt your guns (ohh it burns) while catching up on every series ever recommended to you.

Love and light and elbow bumps xxx Yvette

*Anchorman: The Gun Show

Pamela Reif YouTube channel

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“The more pride you have in a particular aspect of your identity, the more motivated you will be to maintain the habits associated with it. If you’re proud of how your hair looks, you’ll develop all sorts of habits to care for and maintain it. If you’re proud of the size of your biceps, you’ll make sure you never skip an upper-body workout. If you’re proud of the scarves you knit, you’ll be more likely to spend hours knitting each week. Once your pride gets involved, you’ll fight tooth and nail to maintain your habits.” James Clear Atomic Habits: An easy and proven way to build good habits and break bad ones

Party girl Paris Hilton.

Wow-wee this book was a game changer for me. I thought about how hard it was for me to let go of the Party-Girl persona when I initially tried to give up the booze. I was wine. Regardless of the fact I was no longer working in bars or even really going out much and my hangovers were from hell, my inner Paris Hilton was stubbornly refusing to get off the dance floor. James Clear points out the difference in the mindset of two people who are offered a cigarette; one says “I can’t, I’m trying to quit” and the other says, “No thank you, I don’t smoke”. Even though the outcome is the same, neither take the cigarette, the person who identifies as a non-smoker has a stronger chance of not going back to being Smokey Smokerson as this is becoming part of their identity.

“The ultimate form of intrinsic motivation is when a habit becomes part of your identity. It’s one thing to say I’m the type of person who wants this. It’s something very different to say I’m the type of person who is this.”

As I developed new habits to replace the booze; ginger beer in the fridge, the accountability and support of friends in-the-know, the stability of a fixed routine, the satisfaction of chalking up another day on the calendar without a drink, I gained a new self-image as a sober healthy self-helpY type. I became more Yoga-Girl than Party-Girl and now drinking would be out-of-character for me. Ayahuasca perhaps more on-brand.

Yoga Girl Rachel Brathen

“If you want better results, then forget about setting goals. Focus on your system instead.”

The book explores how building new habits is all about systems rather than goals. Every athlete has the goal of winning the event but only the one who has put in consistent work and strived for continuous improvement will. I remember listening to an interview with Katrin Davidsdottir, an Icelandic Cross Fit Champion. She talked about how her friends would say, “can’t you just eat one cookie/ watch one more Netflix episode/ take Christmas Day off…” and she would reply, “No I can’t. Not if I want to be the best in the world”.

Katrin Davidsdottir is goals.

“Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become”.

Another helpful tip from the book was to ask yourself if your actions were supporting your desired identity. So before ordering lunch, for example, ask yourself ,“what would a healthy person chose?” and go for the salad rather than the cookie. To encompass my wishes to be healthier, braver, stronger and creativeR…I have been asking myself , “What would a leader do?” and then choosing actions that support that goal. A leader would…go to the gym, apply for that job, say yes/no, share with vulnerability, write daily etc. So far so good with this and you could always use the age-old WWJD (what would Jesus do?) or WWBD (what would Beyoncé do?)

I can highly recommend this book and will leave you with this nugget o’wisdom: “Professionals stick to the schedule; amateurs let life get in the way.”

Love and light and be a professional xxx Yvette

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