Be kind to your inner child

 

‘The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice’ Peggy O’Mara

Self-talk is such an important part of changing the way we feel which then shapes our experience. What you think about, you bring about. This is the law of attraction. If it’s negative or critical, we feel sad, anxious or guilty which then brings experiences or people that reflect this. If it’s encouraging and positive, we feel joy and love which is matched everywhere we look! Like becoming a living version of my favourite emoticon, the yellow head with the love heart eyes.

This voice inside our heads is often stuck on a broken loop of an old tape. I’m not talking about the good old tapes like 90’s RnB or Craig David’s “7 days” (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ABuWphlnZ1A) which I heard again recently and loved a bit too much! I’m talking about that critical chatter, ‘why do I always do that! I’m such an idiot. I’m so bad at it! Craig David? Am I crazy?’ Blah de blah ad nauseam. Upgrade these old and well worn tracks with a shiny new MP3 version of joy. ‘Craig David! I’m such a musical pioneer. Everyone will love me for this timely reminder!’ Bias your brain to see the good. Wear those rose coloured glasses you have stashed in that drawer. The sales assistant was right. They really suit you! It’s not easy to do when these thoughts have been so ingrained but it is possible. Bit by bit, brick by brick, rose coloured hue by rose coloured hue.

Louise Hay is the absolute guru of this and suggests starting by choosing a thought that makes you feel a bit better. (More here http://www.healyourlife.com/love-your-inner-child) Imagine a 5 year old version of yourself and how you’d talk to them, with love, acceptance and encouragement and starting to talk to yourself like this. Forgiving others becomes easier when you imagine them as a 5 year old too. Even politicians were teeny tiny people once! With actual children, try to always use this kind and gentle talk so that’s how they talk to themselves too.

Other ways to support children and other humans to develop their own positive self-talk.

Encouraging: Offer encouragement for the process and the progress rather than just the accomplishment. This way a good feeling is associated with trying rather than simply achieving.

Role-modelling: Use positive language about everyone and everything. Train your mind to focus on the good and this will have a positive impact on those around you including children.

Affirmations: Say simple affirmations daily. This is a good day. Everyone is always helpful. I love and accept myself. These are catching!

Gratitude: Get into a habit of talking about 3 things you’re grateful for each day and involve your children. Gratitude brings more things to be grateful for and a realisation of the good that’s already here.

I’d love to hear your thoughts, comments and suggestions weavers! The blog pic is of little me. How could you be mad at her?!  Thank you for being a friend and remember to be kind to your inner child or at least, ‘I met this girl on Monday…took her for a drink on Tuesday’…

Mucho love xxx Yvette

Joy and Abundance

Hi weavers! I hope 2017 is off to an amazing start! I’ve got some exciting things I’m looking forward to this year and thought I’d share them with you. My affirmation for this year is, “I move deliberately towards my greatest joy and abundance”. Do you have a word or affirmation for this year?

Daily Practices: I’m committed to daily yoga, meditation, EFT and journalling this year. Even if I can do 5 minutes of each, these practices really set you up for a positive day! I’m doing:

Yoga with Adrienne: https://www.youtube.com/user/yogawithadriene,

Meditation using headspace app: https://www.headspace.com/

and insight timer app: https://insighttimer.com/

Tap with Brad: http://www.tapwithbrad.com/

I’m writing down 3 goals and 3 things I’m grateful for in my journal and aligning myself with my core desired feelings. Have you got any of these practices you find helpful?

Reading: I’m reading 20 minutes of non-fiction and 20 minutes of fiction before bed. Currently it’s:

The 4 Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss http://fourhourworkweek.com/

Truly, Madly, Guilty by Lianne Moriarty http://lianemoriarty.com.au/Book/truly-madly-guilty-us/

I’ve got lots of wonderful books lined up; including The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks, and The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho. I’m learning lots and then relaxing with some great stories! What are you reading? Any book suggestions?

Business: Weave the Future Magical is committed to helping parents and teachers develop kind, calm kids through their mind, body and spirit. MIND: I will be blogging and posting on social media regularly and sharing my experiences working with children as a pre-school teacher. BODY: I’ll be doing my yoga for children training and look forward to sharing this with you. SPIRIT: I’ll be exploring the benefits of using meditation, EFT and kindness with children. Can’t wait! What do you plan to create this year?

Kindness: I’ve been inspired by Simon Sinek to embrace kindness and empathy everywhere including work. In his book, Leaders eat Last, http://www.startwithwhy.com/Books/LeadersEatLast.aspx, (another one for the reading list), he talks about the importance of supporting those we work with. Throughout my teacher training, I was frequently told that I’m, ‘too nice’. I personally think that’s not possible! I understand that children need firm boundaries but the tough love approach doesn’t sit well with me. I do think there’s a difference between being nice and being kind. My natural instinct is to help others and rather than fighting it I’m going to lean into it. I will help the children, families and colleagues I work with and make kindness a central value in the classroom. How can you bring these values to your workplace?

 I’m excited about sharing this all with you wonderful weavers! I’d love to hear from you about your 2017 or with any questions, comments or suggestions.

Love and light xxx Yvette

Throw everything at it!

I’ve been making changes in my life. Daily meditation and EFT. Soberness. Journalling and dreaming. One of my inspirers, Denise Duffield-Thomas, says about manifesting that, “you might as well throw everything at it” In that spirit this is what I’ve been doing lately.

Daily Meditation: Shuffling Gabrielle Bernstein’s meditation albums on Apple Music and doing the meditation track that comes on.

EFT: Recently discovered, “Tap with Brad”, on YouTube. Excited to discover, he is coming to Australia next year. I’ve been trying all different ones but enjoy “Amazing Day” in the morning and “Tapping for insomnia” in the evening. Bless Brad!

Soberness: This is an on-going challenge especially now the hibernating weather is coming to an end. I’ve been focusing on how much better I feel, the money saved, the lack of hang-overs, no blurry memories. Although there are many benefits, I’ve realised the tiredness, headaches and moods are not all alcohol related but just the flow of life. Clarity is good though and consistency. Almost 4 months done!

Journalling: Writing 3 goals morning and evening, thinking of 1 thing I’m grateful for and then 10 reasons why every couple of days. Reminding myself of my core desired feelings daily.

Inspirers; Denise Duffield-Thomas, Gabrielle Bernstein, Danielle LaPorte , Sonia Choquette, Ali Brown. These women inspire and encourage me. I love their authenticity and generosity.

These are some of things I’m throwing at my new life. I love it. I wonder what you’re doing lately ? xxx Yvette

Abundant Abundance

Many unhelpful habits are formed in childhood. The voices we hear become our internal voice. We know that our thoughts create our world and many healers suggest imagining our inner child and watching how you speak to them. We’d never purposely speak to a child in such a negative put-down way but yet we often catch ourselves in negative self-talk like, “why are such an idiot? You’re fat/ugly etc etc”.

Children are listening too and when we say things like, ‘ I better not have a piece of cake or I need to go to the gym/ I’m getting so old /We can’t afford that’, they are listening and taking it all in. Money blocks often come from our parents and if we want to open up the channels for abundance now and for our children’s future we need to clear these and watch how we talk about money. You can set a good example by watching the words you speak out loud and to yourself

The balance is speaking about money as abundant but still teaching children the value of it. How? Gratitude! Cultivate an attitude of gratitude and share it. “We’re so lucky to have this food/ clothes/ holiday. What are you thankful for today? The more you give, the more you receive etc. Just start to do one thing and see the difference it makes. This morning I found a random Korean (I think) coin. I felt so lucky;lucky lucky lucky. I remember reading that a study showed that people who felt lucky found money and people who felt unlucky never even saw it. So feel lucky, watch your words (internal and external) and practice gratitude. Share this with the little people in your life. X Yvette

Image from Angel Answer Cards. Doreen Virtue & Radleigh Valentine. Artwork by Marius Michael-George. 

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Welcome Weavers!

I have a romantic idea of blogging I can probably blame on watching and re-watching too many Sex and the City episodes. Carrie Bradshaw and her Mac draped around her New York apartment contemplating life and love. I am excited to be here with my Mac in Melbourne doing the same. With a slightly less fabulous wardrobe!

I will be looking at topics like self-talk, manifesting, yoga and meditation and how they can be used to create an awesome life not just for yourself but for the children in your life. I don’t have any of my own but I have 2 classes full of 3 and 4 year olds I have the pleasure of teaching daily. I’d love for you to come along on this journey as we weave the future magical together xxx

Present and Future Magic

 

Welcome! I’m Yvette and I live in Melbourne. I started this blog because whenever I have a breakthrough I think, ‘why didn’t I know this earlier?’ All this stuff about the universe supporting you, manifesting, the law of attraction, the power of meditation, the fluidity of yoga. Imagine if you’d learnt it at school? What about if you learnt it when you were 4?! I’m in the unique position of being a soul searcher and a kindergarten teacher and I’m interested in combining these 2 passions and exploring the benefits.

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