Words to live by

There is no shortage of inspirational quotes in our world; avalanches of them online, on fridge magnets and in books. Occasionally I stumble across one that gives me a moment of illumination, some comfort or a reframe of hope in this crazy old world in which we live… “Don’t focus on your competition, focus onContinue reading “Words to live by”

Oh bop, fashion!

You need to just stop
Like can you just not step on my gown?
You need to calm down

No shame and no blame

We waste so much time lamenting things we wish we didn’t do or say or wear or buy. This is unhelpful and floods your body with negative ninny neurones (it’s science). When I was giving up the booze, I felt attacked by my thoughts and hazy memories of shame and blame. Idiot! Why? Why me?Continue reading “No shame and no blame”

Toxic Positivity

I like to see myself as a shiny, happy person laughing. But have I become too much of a Pollyanna? There is a lot of ‘look on the bright side’ and ‘good vibes only’-ness going around. While we can try to keep the vibes high and look for the silver lining, we should check thatContinue reading “Toxic Positivity”

But why tho?

Maybe those 3 year olds that test your patience by following you around asking, ‘why?….why?…but why?’ are onto something. Spectacled and sweet über-geek Simon Sinek suggests that we should always, ‘start with why’. He espouses on this simple but effective philosophy in his excellent TED talk and book of the same name. The basic premiseContinue reading “But why tho?”

Supermodels

There was a poster I loved on the wall at my Kindergarten. It said ‘All educators are supermodels” and the vibe of the thing was to be a positive role-model for the kiddies who are always watching (like God and Santa). I had an a-ha moment and abruptly stopped smoking, shouting and swearing, at leastContinue reading “Supermodels”

New year, more me

Well, I’m sure we’re all au fait with the ‘new year, new me’ phenomenon which sees gym memberships spike rapidly and then attendance plummet swiftly after a fortnight. But this year I’m trying something different, to allow myself to surrender to being ‘more me’. Not the watered down me or the more socially acceptable meContinue reading “New year, more me”

He said…She said…

These guys are the bestest! Because; They went on a date with me I wrote about it I asked them to write about it They did The Dead Letter Club date He said… I was: Excited and a little nervous It started with: An enthusiastic greeting and a large platter of food She was: Charming,Continue reading “He said…She said…”

Avoidant

I’ve spent much of my life jumping out the window and making a break for it. Sometimes it was a real window (luckily only from the first or second floors) and other times it was a metaphorical window. My go-to coping mechanism is being avoidant. You name it, I’ve avoided it. Slept through it. NotContinue reading “Avoidant”

Me, myself and I

One thing’s for sure, whether you like it or not, wherever you go, there you are. You can try to run away, to change or punish yourself but the sooner you realise that mirror man ain’t going away the better. We’re the one we spend all the time with, a constant companion in a changingContinue reading “Me, myself and I”