Bridesmaid: Look at Al Pacino. Never been married, happy as a clam. Bethie: Would that–? Am I–? Would I be Al Pacino in this scenario? “He’s Just Not That into You”
What if happiness wasn’t a destination but a baseline state of being we can cultivate? People have asked me, “what are you smiling about? Why are you so happy?” Besides having resting smiley-face, it’s because I’m being intentional about getting myself into a clam-like state of happiness prior to interacting with the population at large. More happiness begets more happiness. I am Al Pacino in every scenario hoo-hah! Here’s how…
Jake: Thank you for joining me for what promises to be the diggity-dopest tree lighting in the history of the Nine-Nine.
Captain Holt: I don’t understand. Where’s the tree?
Charles: It was inside us all along. Brilliant, Jake.
Jake: No, Charles, not everything was inside of us all along. “Brooklyn 99”
Conscious Consumption: I’m sensitive to a heavy/dark theme so I must be mindful about what I consume. If this means listening to pure pop playlists (it’s the Ari, Liv and Tay for me), skipping over the true crime section to the horoscopes and LOL-ing at eps of “Brooklyn 99” until my cheeks hurt, -then so be it!
The Right Side of Bed: How your day starts impacts on how it continues so getting yourself into a good morning routine goes a long way. For me this looks like meditation, movement, journaling, affirmations and a cup of morning brown. Current faves are: Breathwork-breathe in through nose for 4 counts, hold for 7 counts, breathe out through mouth for 8 counts and repeat. Pilates- ‘Move with Nicole’ YouTube channel has the goods. Thanks in advance-Give gratitude for everything coming up Millhouse today. Hurrah! Affirmations- ‘I measure my success by how much FUN I’m having’ (this Gabby Bernstein one really captures the vibe of the thing). The Secret App gives you a daily dose of 10 affirmations I write out like, “I have a never-ending supply of pure positive energy that is saturating my body and mind now”.
Pivot! Occasionally something will happen that will threaten to put a dint in your clam shell. To dissolve these feelings don’t resist but try to welcome them in and feel them fully. Rhonda Byrne (author of “The Secret”) says when you shout ‘no’ at something it’s the same to your subconscious as shouting ‘yes’ as it’s an intense focus. Instead let the feeling in and she reckons with practice, it’ll pass in 90 seconds like a cloud and leave behind the sunny sky. Gabby Bernstein suggests tapping your fingertips on the side of your hand (EFT style) and saying out loud or to yourself, ‘I am safe, I am safe. I am safe.’ And I suggest singing to Olivia Rodrigo, ‘do you get déjà vu when she’s with youuuuuuu!’ or doing the afore mentioned breathwork/ affirmations to Pivot! Pivot! Back to being clam-happy.
So, join me and we can be happy as clams in high tide*! It was inside us all along. Brilliant!
Love and light, Xoxo Yvette
* The phrase “as happy as a clam” is derived from the full phrase “happy as a clam at high water” where “high water” means the tidal waves. Clams are collected during the low tide. So, during the high tides, the clams are safe from the fishermen.
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