“The day you plant the seed is not the day you eat the fruit. Be patient and stay the course.” Fabienne Fredrickson
“No winter lasts forever; no spring skips its turn.” Hal Borland
“It makes me angry, I’m serious. But then again, I’m just about to get my period. Periods, we all get periods. Every month, yo, that’s what the theory is.
It’s human nature, another cycle. Be nice to me, I’ll make you one of my disciples.” Lily Allen
I’ve been reminding myself of this when I feel stuck-in-a-rut (and especially now as the whole world is collectively in a quarantine phase). Life is cyclical like the garden and weather and 90’s fashion. At the moment I’m in a planting phase; on my knees tilling the soil and squishing down the seeds and doing whatever other gardenY things people do (the poor pot plants I’ve loved or neglected to death). It’s hard not to get frustrated that I’m not yet in the fruit-eating phase of being a teacher-librarian -yogi by the beach like I dream but instead am toiling to gain yogi and library experience, grow my blog and scrolling realestate.com wistfully. But I must remind myself, this too is just a phase which too will pass.
I love the start of Autumn. Life on the mild side! Cooler crisper days. Drier crunchier leaves. EasterY chocolateR eggYs. So, I must remind myself when I get that summertime, summertime sadness that it won’t last forever and the seasons will change (for now at least with impending climate change horror). Likewise, I’ve heard wise people reframing their thoughts about their lives into seasons like students in a ‘study phase’, parents in a ‘family phase’ and salary men in a ‘working phase’. These won’t last forever and the exams, toddler tantrums, capsule hotels and pandemics will pass. Right?
This seasonal reframe can help us understand menstrual cycles too. Even though Aunty Flo has been visiting me for yonkies, I still feel like I’m going crazy as one week I can workout daily and cook up a storm and get social (zoom for one more?) and the next, I feel like walking from the couch to the kettle to make a cup of tea is a major event and effort. Turns out this is normal and we should understand and honour these cycles too. I’m looking forward to learning more about this so I can plan for down times and disco times..Or stay home AND dance time as the current time calls for.
Thanks to Rising Women for this summary (link below).Week 1: Inner Winter – Around day 1-6 of your menstrual cycle when you’re bleeding. Winter is a time of inward reflection, a time of metaphorical death. Week 2: Inner Spring – Around day 7-13 when you’re in the pre-ovulation phase. Ahhh spring phase! This also represents the Goddess or Maiden Archetype. Spring is the second week of your cycle. Week 3: Inner Summer – Around day 14-21 during your ovulation phase. Summer phase is when things begin to heat up – literally and metaphorically. This is the third week of the menstrual cycle, where ovulation occurs
Week 4: Inner Fall – Around day 22-29 during your luteal phase (winding down again). Fall is the fourth week of your cycle, and this is where things start winding down.
So try considering things as seasonal and know that; winter, spring, summer or fall…
All you’ve got to do is call. And I’ll be there, yeah, yeah, yeah. You’ve got a friend.
Love and light and ain’t it good to know that you’ve got a friend xxx Yvette
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