Forgiveness is the gift you give yourself. Are you holding onto resentment or rage at yourself or others? This stuff is toxic, like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies. If you can forgive and let go, it feels like you’ve shed a ton of literal and metaphorical weight off your shoulders. Someone should tell Taylor Swift and Kayne West this (for the record, I’m team Taylor all the way). If you want you can make a list and ‘My Name is Earl’ it by setting out to make things right with people you’ve wronged. But it isn’t necessary to contact everyone you’ve written on your list of names (and yours is in red, underlined / I check it once, then I check it twice, oh!) just try to send them light and love as holding onto the past is holding you back.

I forgive me: Self-forgiveness is key. I have certainly done many a self-destructive and stupid thing in my time but beating myself up further about it Tyler-Duerden style doesn’t help. For this, working with your inner child is helpful. If you see yourself as a gap-toothed wide-eyed youth (with surprisingly trendy hair), you are more likely to look at yourself with empathy, love and forgive. Louise Hay said, ‘we need to communicate with our inner child and let it know that we accept the part that did all the stupid things, the part that was funny looking, the part that was scared, the part that was very foolish and silly—every single part of ourselves’. Visualise your adult self hugging your mini me and offering comfort, support and forgiveness. Get a picture of yourself as a youth to look upon fondly. I can’t be mad at that chunky pink-wearing cherub! It also works to try and imagine other people you want to forgive as little tuckers. It makes them seem more human and vulnerable and therefore easier to forgive.

Hoʻoponopono: This bizarre looking word (I don’t even try to pronounce it) is a Hawaiian forgiveness technique. You think of someone you want to forgive or be forgiven by and say, “I love you. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you.” This has had amazing results and you can repeat it over and over to yourself like a mantra (Fun Fact: I do it at traffic lights). In Joe Vitale’s book, “Zero Limits”, he tells the story of how a Hawaiian psychiatrist, Dr. Len, had cured the entire population of a prison’s mental ward without ever encountering a single inmate face to face.  He did this by performing the hoʻoponopono cleansing technique while sitting in his office and looking at the inmate’s file. It doesn’t even matter which way around you say the words, as long as you say them, or if you say them with someone specific in mind. Or you can download a hoʻoponopono meditation or subliminal recording.

So let go and feel the freedom forgiveness brings.

Love and light and I love you. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you xxx Yvette


Joe Vitale “Zero Limits”