What is your relationship with money? I used to think it wasn’t polite to discuss it and it wasn’t right to want more of it. I am now trying to change that by admitting I want more of it and not avoiding talking about it. One of my core desired feelings is ‘abundant’ which is the woo woo version of having more. ‘More of anything?’ ‘More of everything!’ How can you reframe your relationship with money into a more positive one? One that will have you dropping your Versace on the floor!

#Blessed: A good first step is gratitude for what you’ve got. Bless those coins in your purse, your pay, money found on the street and even your bills. Be thankful for the money you do have. Instead of thinking: ‘$20? Ohh, I wanted a peanut’. After all, money can be exchanged for goods and services. Marie Forleo (Yas queen!) has a mantra she says whenever she spends money, ‘there’s always more where that came from’. The more you have, the more you can give. Leonardo DiCaprio and Sandra Bullock donated $1 million each to the Hurricane Harvey recovery recently.

Watch your words: Do you talk about greedy rich people, scrimping and saving or starving for your art? Or have you heard people say ‘I’d rather be happy than rich’ (who said you can’t be both?!) The way we talk about anything has power. Be mindful of what you say and choose words that reflect how you want to feel about money. ‘Money comes to me easily in expected and in unexpected ways’, “I make money easily doing what I love’, ‘I am connected to infinite abundance’. I have a few of these affirmations posted around the house.

Treat yo’self: To attract more wealth, you need to feel wealthy. This is the law of attraction. If you’re wearing ill-fitting clothes or have poor quality things, you are going to feel blah and manifest blah. If you can upgrade these, you will feel better and attract more of the same. This is what Denise Duffield-Thomas from Lucky Bitch.com calls the ‘incremental upgrade’. You don’t have to go crazy and jump from Aldi to Gucci but I went from Kmart sheets to Ikea sheets and I felt like, papa I’m millionaire! Just start by picking 1 or 2 small things to upgrade and they can make a big difference to how you feel. Being wealthy doesn’t necessarily mean you have a quantity of stuff but rather quality stuff. Keep only what sparks joy. When you get rid of what you no longer wear or use, you make room for what you do want and need.

 Consolidate: I have a coin bowl where I put all my coins. It almost floweth over! When I lived with boys, who have no coin carrying wallet capacity, I used to gather all the coins lying around the house and always had money for beer and skittles. Coins are money too and there’s something symbolic about having a bowl of them lying around and they come in handy for saving, charity boxes, coconut lattes and trips to the laundromat.

Do you have a ‘special relationship’ with money or is it all swings and roundabouts? Try being thankful for it, not speaking ill of it, upgrading things, decluttering things and consolidating what you’ve got. Love money and it will love you back.

Love and light and mo’ money less problems xxx Yvette

Marie Forleo Money tip

Denise Duffield-Thomas

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